Just when you think you learned a lot about yourself, life teaches that you are wrong. There are so many things about ourselves that we continue to learn, explore and discover. Enjoy the process as it comes.
I think the most recent lesson that I have learned is that as I grow and develop, my tolerance level has changed. It has increased in some areas and significantly decreased in other areas, and that is okay. It’s quite interesting observing these changes, even as I go through this doctoral program.
Here are a few things to consider whether you are one month in your program or further along:
* It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, even one month into school. it’s not okay to remain overwhelmed without addressing it appropriately. Do what you need to take care of yourself.
* Time management helps with anxiety and sanity. Get a planner and stick to your short term goals.
* Cry if you need to. Who cares really? If it helps relieve emotional pressure, why not!
* How you feel matters. Pay attention to that ‘gut’ feeling.
* Journal. I am a strong advocate for this as it helps to get things off your mind and can be a great way to process difficult things as they come up.
* Be kind to yourself. Change is difficult and being in school is no reason to run yourself to the ground. You can’t bask in the glory of your achievements if you can’t stay healthy enough to get there.
Check in with your emotions. It’s important.
E: it’s an expression of what is going on with you
M: can be measured (high, low)
O: it can be observed by others and yourself
T: trust that there is something to learn based on how you feel
I: our emotions can be integrated into our daily lives
O: sometimes they can get overwhelming
N: non-verbals can indicate feeling state
S: it can be a signal. So pay attention
“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ Anais Nin (1903-1977), Cuba/France